How were things for you at the beginning?

At first, I looked around at all the disarray in my life. Nearly everything was out of order. I had the sensation of having no victories – of being defeated before I started. Financially, I was spending more than I was earning, my reserves were being depleted.

I could not manage to get together with Catherine, my fiancée (who lived in Indonesia at that time). In terms of order, whenever I looked around my house (and home office), there were papers strewn everywhere.

Looking at my health, my glucose numbers were too high, and I was at least 25 pounds overweight. I ran out of energy easily. In terms of career, my coaching business had yet to attract its first customer,

How are things for you now?

I have found how to connect with clients who can benefit from my services. It delights me to meet them every day. My finances have leaped from minus 5 figures per year to plus six and rising.

Catherine and I are now married. We have two homes: one in Indonesia and the other in Florida.

I have lost 22 pounds, and my body mass index is 23. I have far more energy than I once did, which allows me to do all sorts of things with my wife that would have worn me out before my transformation.

How did you make your transition?

I remember looking with envy at other people whose lives were in order and I wished I could be like them. From there, certain things began to occur to me. I realized that success was possible. I realized that I was structurally capable of success – or that with practice, I could improve.

A major challenge for me was the sensation of overwhelm coming from the fact that there were so many things I needed to accomplish that I had to find a way to make them fit into this gigantic puzzle.

I identified six major endeavors I needed to work on. My initial list was: financial health, relationships, career, physical health, psycho-spiritual health, and order.

Instead of being immobilized by fears and desire for comfort, I redefined my inner life in such a way that I began to get enthusiastic about the things I had shied away from.

The most tedious chores that I had once dreaded became the most beautiful delights. I found ways to energize this activity and get to the point where I truly enjoyed doing them.

At first, I spent one half-hour on each of them. I expanded the half-hour to forty-five minutes, and eventually to a full hour.

My scheduling was not rigid: Some days, certain of these activities required some maintenance, Other times, there were projects that required more than the time frames I had originally allotted. I figured out how to weave these priorities into the time I had available to work on them.

The main thing I did was to cure myself of the desire for distractions; whereas before (for example), if you dropped me off in front of a candy store, I would really be in trouble., I finally got so single-minded and motivated by purpose that I could walk through a candy store just as aloof as a cloud.

So, was your improvement instant and spontaneous?

Far from it! My learning curve was not a path of immediate and unconditional perfection. I began to observe myself and sometimes saw that I was off course.

Whenever that happened, I reminded myself of the analogy of the jet plane. Jet planes are usually off course about ninety-eight percent of the time. We do, however, manage to get from point A to point B, because the plane is in a constant state of course correct.

I learned to let go of my negative self-judgment for those times I was off course… and I got myself back on course. No matter how many times I had to course correct during a day, I did it. As a result, the percentage of time I spent on my desired projects began to increase.

This is essentially how I had managed to transform a task that had once been a pain point to a motivating, exciting activity that energized me.

I went from distracted, unfocused procrastination in which I was unwilling to face the present necessity to focused, committed and devoted activity in service of what was in front of me.

I rewired my emotional framework so that my subconscious (affectionately called “Subby”) so that subby became a major source of support. Before, Subby was following his default programming and was an obstacle to my progress.

This re-wiring was one of the main processes that lead to this outcome.

Another important element was that I realized I was paying an “ignorance tax”. Some of my efforts were being hampered by things I didn’t know. Therefore I sought to learn them.

This often required practicing the right things. For example, if we want to play a song on a musical instrument, we will have to practice the movements that will create the sounds we want to produce.

What about your future prospects?

Catherine and I are planning to start our family. We will split our time between Indonesia and the USA,. My business is growing, yet it is manageable so that I can spend the time I want on it.

We will travel where (and when) we wish, dedicating our time to our overarching goal, which is promoting the oneness of humanity.