Me vs Happiness?
When I was tasked with visualizing what I wanted my life to ideally look like, my mind went to the things that I would like to have that I currently don’t.
I soon learned that it is much broader and deeper than that. Developing that vision within the framework of a DMP (Definite Major Purpose) has been a challenge and I think a limiting factor for me has been that I’ve always been a pretty happy person.
Happiness is not tied to acquiring anything that I don’t already have. When I got my first DMP submission returned with suggested revisions; one of the things that was identified was that there seemed to me a lot of contingencies and would I still be happy if none of the things I identified worked out?
That was a very interesting observation and I pondered it for a long time. I read it over a few times trying to grasp exactly what that meant. My answer is yes. I’m a pretty simple man and regardless where I land with all of this; I’m still going to be happy. It’s a choice.
Do I want the targets that I have identified? Yes. Am I going to work to train my subconscious to manifest them into reality? Absolutely.
There have been times in my life when I have been motivated by my situation to change and to set and go after what I wanted things to look like. Whether it was being unhappy in a job or feeling fat, lazy and out of shape; I have moved from the contemplative stage to maintenance stage of readiness for change.
In those situations, there was the underpinning of unhappiness with the way things were. That was an energizing thing and it became a question of what was the best way to direct the energy towards the goal. When I made up my mind and identified the goal; I was like a bum on a ham sandwich. Nothing was going to stop me.
This is different. I don’t have that same type of motivation. It has to come from a different place and that’s why I think happiness may be something of an impediment.
I like the thought of delegating to Subby. I’ve not given him much thought or attention but have developed a true respect for his strengths and abilities. I need to move away from my “I’ll do it myself” mentality and play to the strengths of the part of me that is much more capable.
I’m developing a greater sense of clarity and confidence as I experience this journey and I’m excited about what will be.
