Breakthroughs, Business, and Becoming a Hedgehog

Letting Go of Old Patterns

Something shifted this week. Not in a dramatic way, but in a way that settled deep. A quiet, powerful realization.

Sitting poolside, wrapped in my morning routine, my mind drifted. The old habit of reaching out, checking in, focusing on someone else instead of myself, crept in.

For years, I looked outward, unsure how to tend to my own challenges. Fixating on others filled the gap where self-care should have been. Avoidance disguised as connection.

This time, I caught myself. Acknowledged the urge. Let it pass.

That was a win.

Instead, I focused on my morning swim, feeling strong, present. My body—this body I am learning to care for—was responding. Clothes fit differently. Energy shifted. Slimming down, reducing inflammation, and honoring myself wasn’t just a goal anymore. It was happening.

Right. On. Time.

A Turning Point: The First Sale
Newsflash:

“Hey, hey! Just finished talking to George. He’s coming on board. He’s gonna invest five grand into our coaching program. Congratulations. Good job bringing him in. We’re moving, baby!”

The first sale. $5,000.

This wasn’t luck. It was proof. The business partnership wasn’t theoretical. It was real. Tangible. Profitable.

For the first time, I felt it deep in my bones—#TeamRicardo was more than an idea. It was a real business partnership. I was a partner.

Acceptance: The Final Stage of Grief

Monday brought clarity.

A morning walk, step after step, settled the truth inside me.

My marriage is over. Not a question. Not a possibility. A fact. Filing for divorce isn’t a consideration; it’s a necessity.

Trust followed. How it unfolds will reveal itself. The details will align. I will be safe.

Yet, why am I so certain family and friends will reach out, demanding explanations? What if no one calls?

Divorce is messy. The topic is polarizing—people either rally around you or avoid it altogether. Silence is just as likely as concern. Either way, their response—or lack of one—changes nothing.

Because for the first time, I see it clearly: I am the one who will live with the consequences of my decisions. No one else.

I refuse to live in the shadow and silence of domestic emotional abuse. This choice is not about making grand declarations—it’s about taking care of myself as I exit the negativity, build a life filled with purpose, and fully immerse myself in it.

Right now, I am decompressing and healing. This year, total health is one of my PPNs, and I am proactively nurturing every part of what makes up true well-being—physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Relocating, choosing myself, standing up by leaving a toxic marriage—this is exactly what my body needs.

I see the proof every time I look in the mirror.

My hair is growing back!

The bald patches are filling in!

This isn’t about blame. I ignored the red flags. I saw them while dating. I never wanted marriage. I agreed to a two-year engagement, thinking at least January 1, 2000, would be a memorable wedding date.

Then came his ultimatum.

“If you want to wait that long to get married, I will marry someone else.”

A glaring red flag. I sacrificed myself by ignoring many more.

It is MY responsibility to stand up for myself.

I’m doing this now.

Becoming a Hedgehog: Focus Over Everything

Fully accepting the truth changed everything. No one else was going to stand up for me—I had to do it myself. I knew I couldn’t just sit with this realization; I needed to take action. That shift bled into every part of my life.

On Monday, I declared I’m a hedgehog—someone who eliminates distractions, gets clear on what truly matters, and moves forward with relentless focus.

Priority A: Work on #TeamRicardo. Forty sales in six weeks. Repeat six times a year. That’s $173K minimum for me.

Priority B: Build my art program.

If something doesn’t align with A or B, it’s gone.
An opportunity I once saw as “the one” no longer fits. The timing isn’t right. Letting it go felt right.
That’s the power of clarity. It makes decisions effortless.

Momentum and Mutual Recognition

The business gained traction this week:
•40 appointments booked in a week.
•Sales calls stacking up.
•Ricardo recognizing my effort.

“Great job today.”

Simple words that landed well.. They meant everything!

This isn’t just work. This is a key piece of the entrepreneurial financial foundation I am building. One of multiple income streams I will put in place this year.

By midweek, gratitude hit me.

I wasn’t assisting a business—I was building one. A real partnership. The commissions, the sales, the progress—I had a direct hand in the outcome of all of it.

I am exact EXACTLY where I want to be!

For the first time, I am stepping out of my own shadow. No longer on the sidelines, I am a true business partner—contributing to the outcomes we desire, assisting in reaching our sales goals, and fully owning my seat at the table.

I have always seen myself here. The time has finally arrived.

I am a contributing force in the momentum we are experiencing. And it matters—not just that I’m working, but who I’m working with.

Partnering with someone who sees my value makes all the difference. What started as a hand up is evolving into a true partnership—one that leverages our complementary strengths to build a business we only recently conspired to create.

The Quiet Power of Letting Go

This week, I made a very important internal choice.
I let go of the fantasy of being rescued. By anyone.
I embraced the reality that I am rescuing myself.

No longer am I willing to be desperate for the affections of anyone.

I know my value. I have much to offer as a business partner, a friend, and a life partner.

With quiet certainty, I have chosen to walk away from any connection that does not align with my self-worth and the positive vision I hold for my life.

Whether that means continuing as a solopreneur or remaining romantically single, the decision has been made: only genuine people belong in my life.

I have grown.

I am no longer the well-intended, comical ray of sunshine who once struggled to comprehend family dynamics—why the hypocrisy, why the mistreatment—constantly shut down, silenced and falsely accused of bad motives when all I ever wanted was to be accepted by and support the ones around me.

Now, I am an adult. Still a comical ray of sunshine, still generous, still giving. But now, I know my worth. I actively protect the positive life I am creating for myself.

All of this is the result of an original thought.

It took me a lifetime to execute that thought. No shame in that. No blame in that.

I am ever so grateful to be living this now—because now, I know how to take a thought, supercharge it with feeling, create a belief that it will happen, take necessary and applicable action, and achieve the results.

Upon reflection of these results, I see clearly that the next level of mastery requires me to tighten my daily habits—to create a hairline distance between thought and execution.

I am filled with gratitude.
#Onward

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